Some children find it difficult to understand social cues, fitting in with their peers or dealing with being bullied.
Ru is a 10 year old girl and was very anxious, was not sleeping well and would not eat. She would often pass out or be physically sick. Her parents were so worried about her. A friend of theirs had seen my advert in a local parents magazine and contacted me.
“Ru had been exhibiting symptoms of anxiety and panic every morning for about 3 weeks now. Within 5-10 mins of waking she was throwing up shivering and sometimes collapsing. This cycle can last sometimes up to 2hrs. It seemed to be getting worse. She says it’s about going to school and at the weekend it is about anything from the days routine activities to worrying about school last week or the following week.
The Impact is negative. Loss of confidence, thinks people want to upset her at school, friends, home etc. She has become very withdrawn and sad. The parents were constantly worried and stressed about her. And daily expectantly await a call from the school. The school are fully aware of the situation and are supportive. As a family us and Evie- her younger sister are finding the focus on helping Ru is all consuming. We love her and just want her to be happy.”
The above are the comments directly from a parent who came to me at their wits end. Not sleeping, constantly worried about their daughter and not knowing where to turn. They had seen their doctor who recommended therapy or counselling. As a coach I offer neither, however, as this is an area of specialism was able to design a coaching programme that helped Ru to build her confidence and regain the joy in her life by teaching her skills to manage her mindset understanding how what we think is what we accomplish both on the conscious and subconscious level. How she can turn negative thoughts and beliefs into positive supportive ones. She also learnt about the power of positive self-talk and powershifting to create and build strong self-esteem. We talked about managing fear and that the negative creations in her mind about the unknown were stopping her having fun and achieving her dreams.
Ru now has solutions, techniques she can use to overcome negative thoughts and beliefs. Has developed skills for managing change that will build her self-confidence as she has learnt to handle anything that comes her way.
If you have a child who is anxious, physically or emotionally fearful of what is going on in their life that stops them taking part & being happy this same program is available. I can tweak it to fit your childs’ particular challenges.
5 Top Tips
- Children find stories useful to help them understand new concepts or ideas. Sharing your experience of a situation is a useful way to communicate a learning point.
- Talk to your child about positive self-talk and the impact it has on wellbeing. Come up with 2 or 3 affirmations together e.g. I am good at writing, I am fun to be around, I am good at sports. Write them out and put them where they will see them regularly.
- Help your child find a way to relax. Simple breathing exercises, meditation or mindfulness are effective
- Share your experience of dealing with change and challenging situations. Talk them through what you did, how you overcame them or not. Discuss options they can take if they open up about their worries.
- The most important thing is to listen and acknowledge their concerns. To them what they feel is real and can stop them in their tracks.
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